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Keeping Relationships Together As Existence Moves Things Apart

A longtime friend will be visiting me for a few hours today in Houston. His name for the purposes of this blog is George from Cincinnati.

George from Cincinnati is seen above as he was 20 years ago. He is the kid in the glasses behind and to the left of the older gentleman. The older gentleman was known as Shorty.

The kid to the left of George in the white shirt was Scott. Scott is dead now which is a source of regret. I’m certain that Scott and I would still be friends were he not dead.

George from Cincinnati and I have been friends for maybe 25 years. When you ponder that the very laws of existence compel objects to move apart from each other, there is a lot to be said for a long term friendship.

Such a relationship is an example of keeping things together. 

(Below–Existence racing away from us.)

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The New York Times recently ran an article saying that good friendships might be more beneficial for you than even family ties. Here is that article.

From that article—-

Exactly why friendship has such a big effect isn’t entirely clear. While friends can run errands and pick up medicine for a sick person, the benefits go well beyond physical assistance; indeed, proximity does not seem to be a factor.

It may be that people with strong social ties also have better access to health services and care. Beyond that, however, friendship clearly has a profound psychological effect. People with strong friendships are less likely than others to get colds, perhaps because they have lower stress levels.

Last year, researchers studied 34 students at the University of Virginia, taking them to the base of a steep hill and fitting them with a weighted backpack. They were then asked to estimate the steepness of the hill. Some participants stood next to friends during the exercise, while others were alone.

The students who stood with friends gave lower estimates of the steepness of the hill. And the longer the friends had known each other, the less steep the hill appeared.

“People with stronger friendship networks feel like there is someone they can turn to,” said Karen A. Roberto, director of the center for gerontology at Virginia Tech. “Friendship is an undervalued resource. The consistent message of these studies is that friends make your life better.”

June 17, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , , , | 4 Comments

A Video—Connect Your Relationships To The World Around You

The video above, which runs just over two minutes, was made first for my friends to view. I’ve decided to run it on the blog as well.

The video is about how a friendship that may seem to exist in isolation, is in fact connected to the larger world. It’s about how we can apply creativity to our relationships and see that we are linked to each other in ways we may not always think about.    

In some respects this video is a continuation of the theme I discussed in my first blog video. (Please click here to see that video.) I feel that if you speak to people in an intelligent and plain manner about day-to-day things, that you will find creativity and optimism.

The video above makes specific reference to my friend Tejal. Below is a picture of Tejal. This post is not so much about Tejal as it is about a larger point, but it’s great to be able to get her in the blog.    

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April 13, 2009 Posted by | Relationships | , , , , , , | Leave a comment