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College Advice—Anybody Can Study, But Don’t Neglect Making Friends

Young people across the nation will be starting or returning to college over the next few weeks.

Here is the advice of a college graduate who is now 40–Anybody can study, but don’t neglect making friends.

I know college costs a lot of money and I realize how important it can be to job prospects. I know many students are working hard to pay for classes. I understand all this.

I would just tell you that in college you have a measure of personal autonomy without all the responsibilities of so-called adult life. It may not seem that way now, but it may well later.

I’m not suggesting you go out and get drunk every night. I’m suggesting that you look for friendships that will last when you are done with college. I still keep in touch with a number of people I met in my college years. These are people who have known me now for 20 years or more. These friends give my past added meaning. They help me look at the future with the knowledge that I’ll have people I like and trust in the years ahead.  

The older you get, the harder it can be to meet new people. It’s possible of course, and hopefully you’ll never stop making new friends. But, for my money at least, even if you are a social butterfly all your days, little outside of a great marriage is better than people you’ve known for almost a lifetime.

So hit the books—But don’t let your social life slip by you. Think about who you know and who you think might be with you for the long haul.

August 14, 2008 - Posted by | Relationships | , , , ,

2 Comments »

  1. Celebrating a 65th birthday in New York City with the fine friends I made in college – none of whom live anywhere near where I do today – was fantastic. We’re not in touch all the time but, when we are, the connection and caring are there.

    I second what you’re saying.

    Comment by Newton | August 14, 2008

  2. Yep–Thanks for the comment. maybe you’ll enjoy a 75th birthday with the same folks.

    Comment by Neil Aquino | August 15, 2008


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