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You Don’t Have To Spend Thanksgiving With Family


Thanksgiving is coming up. It’s a day we are supposed to spend with family, eating a large meal and watching football. If that is what you do, very good for you. You’ll get no argument here. (Despite my dislike of football and all the concussions and long-term disability suffered by football players.)

However, for many people, Thanksgiving is a different holiday than the popular image of the day.

Some spend the day with friends instead of family. Some are alone. 

Maybe you don’t like your family or maybe your schedule or budget does not allow travel to where your family lives. Maybe you’re alone at this point in life.

Whatever Thanksgiving is for you this year, it’s your choice or your circumstance. Many popular notions and conceptions are as unrealistic as the menu in the picture above. How many people are serving pumpkin bread in the shape of a pumpkin? Or mashed turnips?

Each year my wife goes to see her family in Chicago for Thanksgiving. For scheduling reasons I’m unable to go with her or to my parents home in Cincinnati. Most years I’m fortunate enough to get an offer from a co-worker here in Houston to join them for Thanksgiving dinner. I politely decline.

Instead, I drive down the road to Galveston and have a day at the ocean. I eat at some seafood house. It’s always packed and I’m always the only person there by myself. I survive just fine. My observation is that people are too busy stuffing themselves to notice I’m alone.

One year I did not go to Galveston. Instead, I went to the House Of Pies on Kirby Drive in Houston. I had just purchased all three volumes of Robert Remini’s life of Andrew Jackson. I had a lot of reading to do. I sat in that restaurant for maybe three hours reading about President Jackson. It was a wonderful day.

In the House Of Pies that day were gay couples and many people of all types who did not appear to be related. There were all sorts of people in, I’d wager, all sorts of personal  situations.      

All good relationships between people have value. 

All people have value. 

Whatever Thanksgiving brings your way, make the best of it. Life is not like what is shown on TV commercials and TV shows. Life is what it is. Have a very good Thanksgiving.         

November 12, 2007 - Posted by | Books, Galveston, Houston, Relationships | , , , , , , ,


  1. I couldnt agree more! (your menu looks delicious too)
    Ive never been to the house of pies, but would like to go, it sounds devine! I live in Maine but snowbird down to Galveston for the six month winters. (yay)

    Comment by Beth Punches | November 12, 2007

  2. Half the year in Galveston and half the year in Maine. Sounds good. I put your art web page on blogroll. Thanks for your comment.

    Comment by Neil Aquino | November 13, 2007

  3. I live in San Antonio, and I have been in Galveston once in my life!!

    and I agree with you; life is not like what is shown on TV… Life is what it is.

    God Bless you, Neil.

    Comment by Jackie Garcia | November 16, 2009

  4. Jackie—Thanks for this kind comment. Please have a great holiday and please visit the blog again.

    Comment by Neil Aquino | November 16, 2009

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